We’ve all been there. An overwhelming majority of us are probably still there right now; I know I am, scrambling, anxious, all stressed out about something, someone or maybe both. Hopefully you’re not dealing with both at the same time because that would be a lot to endure. Either way whatever you’re coping with as tough as it may currently seem, I can assure you in time that this too shall pass.
As we push through the second half of 2018, here are some tools to hopefully help you alleviate some of your stress and anxiety.
Pray/Meditate : “I undertand this message is not the coolest to say but if you down to try it I know of a better way, meditate” – J. Cole
This is how we should start our day, being thankful for waking up and having another crack at it. Not everyone woke up today, so consider yourself extremely blessed! I personally need to a do a better job at praying/meditating every single day. I’m not aimlessly walking around without talking to God on a daily basis, but I’m referring to a very conscious effort of getting on my knees and praying to start my day. It’s important to thank God for all we’ve been blessed with and to show gratitude for what has been provided for us, because in reality all of our situations could be worse off. If meditation is your preference, start off by trying to do 10-to-20 minutes a day. Whether you decide to do one or both it’s going to feel awkward at first, but do your best to remain as consistent as possible and you’ll be well on your way, trust me.
Feel : “Vibes don’t lie” – Kenyon Dixon
We must trust the process and journey that is life. There are peaks and valleys, joys and pains, sad days and happy days. Don’t get me wrong, the valleys are weak AF, but man, when those peaks show up, it surely makes those valleys worth it, perspective is everything! Feelings are vibrations that we are alive, they show us what we care about, where our priorities lie and what we believe in amongst other things. Hopefully we can get to a place where we don’t waver regardless of our circumstances. This is much easier said than done, but imagine being in a mental space where you stand firm in faith during adversity and remain humble in all of our successes. This is a real life goal!
Exercise : “You wasn’t with me shooting in the gym” – Drake
High key, health is the real wealth. Physical exercise is a great way to relieve stress and keep your blood pressure down. It doesn’t matter what level you’re on, whether power-walking for cardio or you’re the CrossFit Athlete of the Year, exercising 20-to-30 minutes a day can really work wonders on your mind, body and spirit. I personally like to mix it up between an old-fashioned calisthenics and hooping (disclaimer: I’m always here for the smoke on the court). Whatever you’re into, whether walking, running, swimming, tennis, hitting the weights, etc. You need to get your ass moving and break a sweat!
Create : “Got treasures in my mind but couldn’t open up my own vault” – Kanye West
All stress is not bad stress. This season could be the opportunity for one of your greatest creations or revelations. Maybe you’re starting your own business, launching a new brand, releasing a new product, or just stepping into unfamiliar territory. Whether you realize it or not, the cause of your stress and strife could very well be the catalyst for personal and or professional transformation that ultimately changes life for the better. Search inside yourself, once you’ve recognized and felt the pain; try to understand the root of your discomfort. Once stress is properly identified and positive coping mechanisms are implemented there’s ways you can triumph and use it to your advantage.
Talk : “You can’t heal what you didn’t reveal” – Jay Z
If you’re really going through it for an extended period of time and nothing seems to be helping, I hope that you have someone that you trust--whether a parent, close friend, confidant, family member, mentor, someone that you can candidly express yourself to. Being able to talk through your issues, concerns or even traumas is extremely important. If you don’t have one of these individuals in your life and you feel like things are getting worse, I would suggest going to seek professional help via therapy. Even if you have one of these individuals in your life and still want professional help, I will surely advocate that decision. Listen closely, there’s nothing wrong with admitting things are bothering you or that you’re confused, sad, depressed, and dealing with trauma. Whatever it is, take all the time you need to make yourself feel better.